Re-Creating Your Self by Christopher Stone
If you are open to learning, then you can learn from virtually everyone and every thing. Often others teach us what we aspire to become. Other times, our teachers are poster children for the kind of individuals we dread becoming.
Teachers are everywhere: at home, in the movies, in our classrooms and churches, next door and across the world. They are everything: a person we meet by chance, a book we read, a lecture we attend. Teachers populate television, seminars and work-shops, the restaurants in which we eat and the medical offices we visit. Your next teacher may be the postal carrier who returns to your mail box at the end of the day because he forgot to deliver a piece of your mail. Regrettably, your next teacher may be the condescending sales-woman at Saks who doesn’t understand your relationship: you represent profit and she represents overhead.
Yes, our teachers are everywhere, but I believe that personal experience is your best teacher and the only acceptable criterion of truth. It must take precedence over all outside authority, conventional wisdom, secondary testimony and cultural tradition. Many of you feel the same way. That’s why Re-Creating Your Self is structured in a manner that allows you to prove the validity of its principles for your self: first through the “Adventures in Inner Space,” sprinkled through these columns; then through your personal experience as you apply these ideas to your life.
When you ask, “How does life work, and what makes things happen?” Re-Creating Your Self answers, “You create your life in line with your beliefs.” From an infinite number of possibilities, you create your personal experiences according to your belief system. Seeing your beliefs manifested as physical events, you learn about your self. This is the philosophy of the physical world as “idea construction.” As your beliefs change, so do your experiences, Changing your beliefs regularly, you can re-create your self over and over again. You learn new things about your self; and, by doing so, you grow and develop further.
Understanding that you create your experiences, for better or for worse, and knowing that you can alter them by altering your attitudes, may change your life even before you accept your new beliefs. This is a self-empowering philosophy, as well as one that’s stood the test of time. However, successfully re-creating your self requires that you do more than acknowledge the value of these principles.
If you would become that person you want to be, living the life you desire, then you must use these principles as well as acknowledging their value. You must directly apply this knowledge to your life. That is wisdom, dear readers – using what you know to be true to benefit your self and others.
Tragically, some people never use what they have learned to help themselves, much less others. They may spend time, energy and money buying and reading self-help books, attending lectures and seminars, and going from one guru to another. They acquire knowledge, and then they put it on a shelf, like a movie awaiting release. You may have been one of those people in the past. If so, then you can change that right now.
The tools for personal change, explained in previous columns, will help toward that end. They will assist you in using what you have learned. Use these valuable tools regularly and your personal experiences will continue to improve; you will eventually achieve your goals. If you use these tools erratically, on a hit-and-miss basis, you’ll produce hit-and-miss results.
Re-Creating Your Self students have frequently asked me, “Of all the tools for personal change, which are the most important?” Automatically, instantly, I reply, “Loving your self and thinking for your self!” When you love your self, you understand that you are inherently good and eminently deserving of the best life has to offer, Then – and only then – do you begin creating the best of everything, When you think for you self, refusing to permit the limiting attitudes of others to determine the boundaries of your own experience, then you are capable of creating your heart’s desires.
A Re-Creating Your Self Thought: Granted, studying is an important part of the learning process, but it is through personal, hands-on experience that we master a subject. For example, would you want your car’s transmission replaced by someone who’d read about the subject, but had never replaced a transmission? Or, for that matter, would you undergo brain surgery from someone who’d only studied the subject without ever having performed such an operation?
Coming August 15: Re-Creating Your New Self
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Copyright 2010 by Christopher Stone