from ChicagoHealers.com Practitioner Sheila Shaughnessy, MA
In these trying times, almost all Americans have dealt with life changes, both big and small. Whether having to adjust spending, give up certain activities/things or major changes such as getting laid off or losing a
home, one thing is certain, change can be very challenging. However, ChicagoHealers.com practitioner Sheila Shaughnessy, explains that it doesn’t have to be all negative if people allow themselves to view every change as an opportunity for growth. Much like the seasons, people experience cycles that are meant to help us process the transition at hand for our own well-being. Shaughnessy offers the following tips and techniques for coping with change.
- Endings/Loss – In this first stage of the change cycle, we come to terms that a relationship to person, place or thing has ceased to exist, as you once knew it. It’s natural and good to grieve the loss so long as it doesn’t put you in a state of ongoing depression. The goal of this stage is to look back and evaluate the past experience for the wisdom it has to offer:
- Identify what worked, what was successful?
- Identify what didn’t work and why?
- If you could repeat the experience, what would you alter?
The most important aspect of sitting with these questions is that you reconcile your behaviors with a spirit of compassion and forgiveness. No one is perfect and life affords us the change cycle to expand and grow over time.
- Preparation – In this stage we retreats to refuel to get ready for whatever lies ahead. Keep in mind this is a time to:
- Mother yourself with care
- Clear out emotional or physical clutter to make way for the new
- Be open to learning new behaviors/skills that shape us for future
- Be open to meeting new people
- The challenge in this phase is learning to manage your anxiety of theunknown so you don’t undermine the learning or networking opportunities asthey arise. Be sure to practice a variety of stress management techniquesto identify which are successful in helping you deal with fear.
- Beginnings – In this stage we have a vision of what the future can hold. Many of the details are still lacking, but we have the momentum to move forward. The most important aspect of this phase is the self-discipline to stay true to your spirit. Ask yourself:
- What are the motivations behind the new beginning?
- Am I empowering myself?
- Too often individuals are motivated to accomplish goals/projects for reasons outside themselves.
- Abundance – In this stage we experience the highest potential our situation has to offer. To experience Abundance you must tame your Inner Child from:
- Demanding perfection otherwise any state of Abundance will never “be enough”
- Demanding complete control otherwise Abundance is an elusive concept that’s chased but never experienced.