Re-Creating Your Self
By Christopher Stone
Last time, you created your Blueprint for Personal Change, your own unique guidelines for Re-Creating Your Self, becoming the person you want to be, living the life you desire. I promised that subsequent columns would introduce you to potent tools for change that would transform your blueprint from a personal goal into your personal reality.
Here we go: `One of the most essential tools to effect personal change, to become a self-created, not an other-created, person is thinking for your self. To successfully accept the new, positive beliefs in your blueprint, you must do your own thinking, unfettered by the personal beliefs of others, including the most significant others in your life.
Now, you may think that thinking for your self is a no-brainer, the obvious, natural thing to do – and it is obvious and natural. But how often do you really think for your self? You can answer that question for your self by noting how many ideas on your beliefs lists originated with you, and how many were acquired from others, without your own careful scrutiny.
If you follow this column faithfully, then you already know I believe you became an other-created man or woman by not thinking for your self – by blindly accepting the ideas spoon-fed to you in childhood by the influential others in your early years. You allowed the important individuals and organizations from your childhood to literally define the very nature of reality for you. From the start, you were taught to depend upon others, and not your self, to distinguish right from wrong, truth from fiction. You were rewarded for mechanically, unfeelingly reciting beliefs – a parental dictum, a catechism, a school policy – accepted from an authority figure. You were sometimes scolded, or even punished, if you had the audacity to think for your self.
When were you ever encouraged or rewarded to examine the validity of your parents’ beliefs for your self? How many times did anyone express interest in your thoughts about the nature of reality? Most of you will answer “Never!” to these questions.
Not surprisingly, you came to believe that allowing others to think for you was good; it brought approval and reward. Thinking for your self was bad; it yielded sarcasm, scorn and punishment – you were branded “abnormal,” “delinquent,” or “rebellious.”
A Re-Creating Your Self Thought”: Way back in the nineteenth century, Mary Baker Eddy, the Discoverer and Founder of Christian Science, proclaimed, “The time for thinkers is at hand.” Given society’s ongoing affinity for conformity and sameness, it would seem that Mrs. Eddy’s proclamation was premature.