How do YOU interpret dreams? Where do you begin?
I woke in the wee hours from a troubling one and it was so vivid and horrifying I could not get back to sleep until I figured out its meaning. I just knew it meant something important. But what?
As a hypnotist, and as an intuitive reader, I know the subconscious brain controls our dreams and the conscious brain rules most of our actions during the awake cycle. So when there is something you or I feel in our gut (meaning we know it intuitively, emotionally, or in our subconscious brain) and we IGNORE that gut-feeling because our conscious mind wants to rationalize everything – sometimes to the point of denying what we feel – once we fall asleep the subconscious brain can send us dreams to MAKE OUR BRAIN look at whatever important intuitive reality we have been dismissing.
In my “nightmare,” a set of parents had dumped their unattractive baby on me. There was nothing physically wrong with the child and I love children in general but this time I did not have time or the desire to babysit as I had other extremely important things to do. Yet because the kid was abandoned in my care I felt highly obligated to provide for it – while feeling annoyed and harshly judged by the parents when they came back.
After the dream, I could not get back to sleep; not until I pulled out a book called “The Dreamer’s Dictionary” by Lady Stern Robinson and Tom Gorbett. There I read if a dream baby is displeasing in any way you should “look out for treachery in someone you are inclined to trust.”
Immediately I knew what my dream was about. The “baby” is a basically very nice person in my life who has a serious lack of drive and inability to pay his/her own way in life and who often has the effect of looking like a human barnacle, clinging to others for sustenance. That person can seem so caring, thoughtful and easy to talk to; it’s easy to let my guard down around him/her. I tend to want to rescue that person – to my own financial detriment.
Once I realized my dream was a warning not to get too close or involved, the return to sleep came easily. I realized that my feelings and obligations toward the baby were the exact emotions I had been feeling toward that highly dependent adult “friend” and that’s all my subconscious mind wanted my conscious brain to admit for peace to return to me.
In life, we get in trouble when we allow our mind to mentally “argue” with what we “feel” intuitively. And vice versa. We might rationalize: “Yeah, this person does cost me too much money every time we hang out but I feel lonely sometimes and that ridiculously needy person is always available to talk to me.”
Or … “Yes. I know this person was really mean to me and broke my valuables. Yet he is just having a really bad day.” (Denying how destructive someone’s behavior really is.)
If that kind of rationalizing continues, where our intuitive brain and cognitive brains are not listening to each other, we begin to feel out of balance and/or confused.
Dreams are important because they keep our two minds synchronized and working harmoniously together. Without them, we would be living with chaos. Dreams enable us to make better choices so life can feel more productive and happy.
As Langston Hughes said: “Hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, life is a broken-winged bird that cannot fly.”
About the author
SunTiger writes from Seattle Washington. Her website is SunTigerMOJO.com.
“Quite often dreams bring important messages of warning, of support, and of wisdom for finding a better way to live. So that is why I encourage everyone I know to pay close attention to their dreams. “