by David Essel
I wrote this book as a way of making amends to the thousands of listeners to my national radio show, as well as former coaching and counseling clients I may have unknowingly mislead for the first 10 years of my practice.
You see, I used to teach back then about the power of positive thinking. That according to the guru’s before me, if you use affirmations and thought correctly, you can attract “things” like money, love and perfect health.
I was wrong. So to set the record straight, I called on six New York Times best selling authors, and dozens of experts and clients to write the truth about the power of positive thinking, and included their writings in this book.
Dismantling the Positive Thinking Myth
So, why is a guy who loves positive thinking, and has worked in the positive thinking, personal growth industry for over 30 years, now writing a book to dismantle the myth of the power of positive thinking? The truth is that I love positive thinking. I’m one of the most positive people you will ever meet. If you ask my brother, and he’s totally unbiased of course, he will tell you that he’s never met a person that has gone through more adversity and maintained such a high-powered positive attitude—than me. But I did not get or stay positive strictly by thinking only positive thoughts and saying or writing affirmations. I became and remain positive by relentlessly facing my own shadow and seeking the truth, not simply covering it with positive affirmations. Accepting and coming to terms with the truth, the good, the bad and the ugly, is what lead me to the actions that helped me change my life for the better.
As I witnessed so many clients who were disappointed and disillusioned after following the advice of best-selling books on us ing the power of the mind to change their life, and not seeing any real and lasting changes, I realized that positive thinking alone had some serious limitations. As I saw that the coaching work that we offer naturally addresses the need to jump off the positive thinking bandwagon, and take positivity to the next level by guiding our clients into taking powerful and positive action steps necessary for deep and permanent change, I knew that I needed to share this with everyone.
The people that find their way to our work are only a tiny percentage, compared to the millions upon millions of people who have invested time, money and effort into weekend seminars, CD courses, DVD programs, and books, that have been telling us for years that if you think a certain way, you can attract the perfect soul mate. Or if you build the right type of vision board, you can become a millionaire. It’s all a bunch of crap. And this book will prove that not only are these theories and philosophies unfounded in reality, but that they could actually be hurting more people than they help.
I don’t believe for a second that other authors, teachers or speakers, have done this intentionally. I really think everyone has good intentions in this industry, at least for the most part, to help people create the life they want. But positive thinking alone just doesn’t work. Unless of course, a miracle takes place—which it could—I’m all for miracles, but usually people that achieve any type of significant success do it by something much greater than positive thinking alone.
Let me give you an example of a client that came into my office a number of years ago in the same dejected state of mind that I’ve seen in so many people. She had followed a very popular book that recommended she write positive affirmations about what she wanted in her life for 45 minutes every day. She walked into the office with piles upon piles of journals, 45 minutes of writing affirmations every day for two years. She never missed one day of writing! And yet here she was, almost broke, having not been in a healthy relationship for years, struggling with self-confidence and self-esteem. Everything that she was told she would accomplish by writing these affirmations had never come true. I was her last stop. There was nothing else left that she could think of doing other than investing some of the little money she had in savings, into my coaching program.
Within eight weeks, we were seeing a dramatic turnaround in her attitude. Twelve months later she was rocketing to the top of her profession, making more money than she’s ever made, doing exactly what she’s here on earth to do. So what was the difference between the work that we did together and the program she was following by a best-selling author that has sold millions of books? The answer you will find later in this book. You’ll find that taking specific steps on a daily basis is the key to great success with your financial situation, your body, your attitude, your relationships, your spiritual path or anything else that you want to accomplish in life. She was proof positive, that by only using positive thinking, nothing changes in our lives. Now there are exceptions. Miracles happen. I’ll never take that away from anyone. But instead of sitting around and waiting for miracles to happen, we will teach you a formula, which will help you create the success you’ve always wanted. And I’m so excited to share it.
About the author:
David Essel, M.S. is the best selling author of nine books including Positive Thinking Will Never Change Your Life But This Book Will. He is a counselor and master life coach and inspirational speaker whose work is endorsed by celebrities like Jenny McCarthy, Wayne Dyer, Kenny Loggins and Mark Victor Hansen. www.talkdavid.com
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