by Vijay Eswaran
My friend Henry and I grew up not far from each other in the same town. He was just about a year older then me. Our families were alike —hardworking, middle class folk who wanted their children to get the best education possible. We left the country around the same time to study abroad. We came back to Malaysia within a year of each other and found comfortable middle management jobs that paid a decent salary. We even got married around the same time. Our lives seemed to run almost parallel.
He was one of my closest friends. We would often talk about our hopes and dreams for the future in that abstract way one discusses something that’s a long way off.
Perhaps the only thing we differed on was his almost fanatical approach to fitness. He liked to run 5 miles each morning, and was extremely careful about his diet. I, on the other hand preferred my morning snooze, and was not so discerning about what I ate as long as it tasted good.
Henry was always trying to get me to go for a Sunday morning run with him. Sometimes, he succeeded in getting me out of bed, but those mornings mostly involved us going for a stroll to the nearest street food stall that served a delicious early morning breakfast.
One such Sunday morning Henry was outside my door trying to get me to come out. I was in no mood to leave my bed that morning and convinced him to go on ahead promising to meet him at our usual spot for breakfast in an hour.
That was the last I saw of him. When I went to our breakfast spot later, I found out that Henry had collapsed halfway through his run of a massive heart attack and was dead before help arrived. A man who for the best part of his life was a fitness fanatic, who was at the prime of his life with a young wife and child, and had so much to look forward to, was suddenly and unexpectedly gone. He was 34.
Sometime later, as I emerged from my own grief and sorrow, I thought wistfully of the plans Henry and I had made for our future and how he would never get to work on those. That’s when the realization hit me — If I didn’t do something with the time I have now, it may be too late. Who is to say how much time I have left?
I was in my early 30s, comfortable with my 9 to 5 job. I had a modest house in the suburbs and a wonderful wife. I was coasting along. I knew there was more to life, and that I could be doing a lot more with my talents and abilities, but I had settled into a comfort zone.
Henry’s passing shook me from my stupor. I felt a sense of urgency begin to rise within me.
I knew then that I should not waste the time I have left anymore. I flipped open the journal I used to write in those days in which I had listed all the things I thought were my priorities at the time. As I reviewed that list in the light of my friend’s death, I came to terms with the fact that if I had just a month to live, that list would be meaningless.
Things I had originally marked as priority didn’t seem that important anymore. Having a bucket list is great, and its fun to cross off new adventures of it, but my life was not going to be about just about ticking a box anymore. My short term and long term goals shifted. Spending time with my family and ensuring their future should something happen to me became my number one prerogative.
I knew that it was time to start focusing on living my purpose, on creating a legacy, and having a positive impact on the world. I realized I had to make the most of every day and make each day count. The new found sense of urgency pushed me to hit the reset button on my life. I walked away from my job and found the courage to pursue entrepreneurship full time. I took a leap of faith into uncharted waters and it proved to be the best decision I ever made.
People forget how transient life is. They think they have all the time in the world to go after their dreams and allow themselves to sink into a comfort zone. The comfort zone builds up gradually. You do not just wake up one morning and find yourself right in the midst of it. It is in fact a very slow, velvety, quicksand. It has a cocoon like effect and lulls you into a sense of false security. So much so that you stop trying to see beyond it. The hunger, the anger, and the energy that drives you to take risks, that makes you challenge preconceived notions, that forces you to seek out new horizons constantly, suddenly dissolves into this velvety zone that you are so safely snuggled into. What you do not realize is that this quicksand snuggles you just as it suffocates you.
I was unceremoniously pulled out of the quicksand of my comfort zone by the death of my friend. While that was a rude (and much needed) wake up call in my life, and I have taken every precaution since then to never fall back into it again, I confess that the comfort zone still creeps up on me every now and then.
Every single time I find myself choosing not to dare, not to risk, and worst of all, taking life for granted again, the comfort zone is right there, waiting to suck me back in.
If you have been putting off something for later, I am here to remind you that there may not be a ‘later’. All you have is now. It’s never too late to hit the reset button. Begin by taking stock of your life and making a priority list of things that mean the most to you. Map your goals with the legacy you want to leave. Break it down into smaller goals and launch into it immediately. Work towards it every single day.
Your entire being will rebel against it and that’s ok. The truth is that if you place too much attention on those feelings and wait for the perfect time to start, you’ll probably never start. Remember, all you have is now.
In the words of Steve Jobs, “My favorite things in life don’t cost any money. It’s really clear that the most precious resource we all have is time.”
This article is adapted from Vijay Eswaran’s new book Two Minutes from the Abyss published by Networking Times Press and is available as an eBook on Amazon.
About the author:
Vijay Eswaran is a successful entrepreneur, motivational speaker and philanthropist. An economist by training, he is the founder of a multimillion-dollar global business, and the author of the best-selling book In the Sphere of Silence. Eswaran is a well-known thought leader in Asia and has written and spoken extensively about business, leadership, personal development and life management. When not traveling the globe on business, he is a passionate advocate for improving the quality of higher education in South East Asia. Eswaran is the recipient of numerous awards for entrepreneurship and business leadership and has been featured in Forbes as one of Asia’s Top 50 philanthropists. He is also on the advisory board of the World Economic Forum’s Global Growth Companies, and a regular speaker at WEF’s annual meeting in Davos. For more information, visit www.vijayeswaran.com/2mins and connect with him on Twitter, @vjayeswaran. His newest book Two Minutes from the Abyss Kindle Edition is now available for download on Amazon.
by Karamjeet Kaur
There was no turning back for me when I found that I am the true self love. This was turning point of every moment in my life. In realizing every moment of this truth, it is very mystical in living life the way I use to. When you fall in love with your very self, you open the secret door to your very own secret to know your true self.
Falling in love with self is like you found a seed within. Every moment you are checking your seed on its growth and vital sign. The more the focus is given to it the more your energy shown to the seed. To ensure the seed is growing very strong and full rooted, this is where you will find out your secret ingredients that will surely make the root of seed firms on its ground
The ingredients to your seed is different from every individual. This is where the challenge starts because you need to synchronize your choice of ingredients to grow the seed well within you. So, what are the ingredients that is available in the market for your inner seed to be firm grounded? The seed is your true love for yourself which can never be gone or separated from your very self. It is always there,been there and forever there. It simply await for your choice of ingredients to groom the way your wish to experiences its magic flow within you.
You can choose ingredients as water or what sort of liquid you give to your seed, type of food, type of emotions that generates your seed, to know your thoughts patterns as it affects your seed, giving thanks for its existence within, to know how to keep your seed motivated so it feels it is being important and lastly traits of bonding you have with your seed. True love for yourself is seed of gift given to feel its power, its awareness, its magic, it unconditional feelings, its purity and its joy of truth.
So feel your seed of true love. Treasure it with all your heart as your keep pouring your chosen ingredients. Your seed of true love is your open treasure box that you meant to discover and enjoy your living life here on planet earth. As you aware and connect to your inner seed, your perception of life is will change into different views. You will see everything is magic or miracle. In this moments, you will find yourself amaze with the incredible gifts that Mother Nature has provided. Slowly slowly, the connection gets deeper and you will start attraction the inner vibration that your emitting from within.
You will attract as your heart desires, as you wish to experience. You will constantly increasing your trust to your inner instinct towards your creation. This is where you will realize that You are co-creator and in charge of your own destiny. You may find along the way experience pit falls or stumble into something which may gives little jerk but all this is only to enhance your inner oneness with your seed that growing within generating your inner true power of your true love.
As you keep walking and practicing the above, your confidence and faith will becomes your strength. You will have your own answer to your reason or purpose of this journey on why you are here. You will start sharing your amazing awareness to others because You found true yourself, the contentment, fulfillment of joy that breeds unshaken light of true love within you. Wherever you go, your keep spreading your light to your family, friends, nature and everything that connects to you.
True self love is your key to open and explore your nature, find your answer and attained your fulfillment because it is your birthright. Trust me, its pure joy even you find moment of some negative emotions comes your way, you will know why and its reason arrive in your life. You will easily forgive and let go. Never let the matter be your burden because You have found your true love that can never be lost. You are forever aware of your truth.
My sharing above to ignite that Self Love is never selfish, its to connect the oneness that you are here for. My blessings of Love to you.
About the author:
Karamjeet Kaur, MBA (HRM), HRDF certified trainer, self-love specialist, coach, consultant, an international author and director of Global Homeopathic Centre Sdn Bhd (GHC).Karamjeet has background of 20 years of working experiences in local and multinational (RHB, HSBC, ESPNSTAR SPORTS) organizations. Her expertise are in people and service operations management which involves in the area of human resource management, administration, purchasing, finance, marketing, public relations, customer service, branding, sales and top management. Karamjeet has been involved with social work since 2004. She currently on “Self Love Empowerment Tour” where she gives free talks at schools on self-love-empowerment for Teenagers. She has been empowering single mothers, emotionally disturbed/overstressed women and men through self-love coaching and training for last seven years. Karamjeet focuses only on self-love empowerment, motivation self-help and belief thought patterns. Her new book titled “Truly Love Me” which is being published under Balboa Press, Hay House Division, USA is now being released worldwide online bookstores. “Truly Love Me” is about understand self-love and how it works in making life fabulous.
by Sherrie Laryse
Last month I turned 40. I’ve been casually learning about the human body since my 20’s and have been solidly focused on human behaviour since 30. At 40 I feel qualified to share some wisdom with you, which, as it turns out, begins and ends with sh*t. Quite literally.
Anyway, here are 18 gems of wisdom worth knowing and sharing for improved wellbeing in 2018.
1. Never push a poo
I’ve talked about this in length with many a doctor. Hemorrhoids, incomplete elimination, undue pressure on the pelvic floor. The point is, let nature time it’s bodily functions, not your client meetings. Consider investing in a Squatty Potty or Proppr for a more natural and efficient posture.
2. A year from now you will wish that you started today
Whatever it is that you’re procrastinating about or thinking it might be too late, just put your name down and get started already. This includes learning, saving, dating and changing your lifestyle.
3. Take a multi vitamin
Have you ever looked at the recommended daily intake of vitamins and minerals and worked out how much you’d need to eat to fulfil that list? Eat well and take a multi. Done.
4. Breathe more deeply.
It detoxifies your lungs, will give you more oxygen, more alertness, more energy, tighten your abdomen and loosen your shoulders.
5. Find an inspiring challenge to sink your teeth into
Prostate cancer is common in retired men as it is related to low testosterone levels. As a retired man, the best thing you can do is to stay challenged with something that inspires you. Build a back patio, learn guitar, improve your golf game…the critical factor is that you find a challenge that you love as this will help rebalance your testosterone levels.
6. Brush your teeth with your non-dominant hand
Implementing a new habit with your non-dominant hand will increase your brain’s vitality and strengthen neural networks. This helps your memory, motor skills and generally stops the mental decline that can come with age.
7. Self-righteousness raises blood pressure.
The opposite lowers blood pressure. A balanced perspective is key.
8. 90% of our genes are bacterial
Maybe don’t buy the antibacterial soap after all…..seriously. The bacteria on your hands is one of your frontline defense systems.
9. Water fasting is a great way detoxify and reduce inflammation
One day, every now and then, just drink water. It’s like a reset for your system and (if you’re anything like me) it’s amazing how much extra time you gain in your day when not concentrating on and preparing food!
10. Wait 2-3 hours after eating dinner before lying down.
Eating then going to bed impacts your diaphragm, thus influencing the position of your heart, gall bladder and colon. Wait an hour after a snack or 2-3 hours after a meal.
11. The flu shot increases the chances of getting the flu
The mercury contained in vaccines is such a strong immune depressant that a flu shot suppresses immunity for several weeks.
12. Allergies are reversible
Allergies are often nothing more than repeated negative associations to what it is you’re allergic to. All reversible by resolving the previous associations. Wild? Yes.
13. To stress is to regress
The greater the stress in our lives, the more our physical body regresses into more primitive states of immune systems. To clarify though, I’m talking about ‘distress’, which is what we commonly refer to as ‘stress’. There are two types of stress though. Let me introduce you to eustress: ‘Eu’ meaning ‘good’ + stress. In other words, beneficial stress.
Eustress, as opposed to Distress, is the stress you experience when you tackle inspiring challenges. So, take the time to consider how your current stresses are benefiting your overall goals so you can find inspiration in them and convert distress into eustress. This is a game changer for your health. I promise.
14. Illness and disease is a sign of health
A healthy system gives you feedback of what is out of balance. Tell me what and where the illness is and I can talk you through the psychosomatic angle, which may or may not be the cause, but it might help you heal faster anyway. At the very least, you get to resolve something you didn’t know was hanging around in your psyche.
15. Resolving anger from your past just might save your life
Denial, rage, overwhelm, frustration, sadness, guilt, shame and manic states all impact our health and have their roles in putting our physiology in imbalance (see #14) . Yet all of them are able to be resolved.
And when I say “resolved” I mean coming to a place where you can look back on a situation that made you angry/sad/resentful/etc and say ‘thank you’. That is resolved. Nothing less. I can talk you through this one on one. Call me.
16. Go out for breakfast, not dinner
Our metabolism is faster in the morning. Reduce your meal sizes throughout the day so the evening meal is light.
17. Find the horizon
When your eyes are focused within your immediate environment, so too is your mental focus. It’s weighted toward what is happening in your life right now. If you want to expand your thinking and reach beyond your immediate focus (out of a problem or into big picture life plans), then go somewhere you can have an expansive view. See sky. See the horizon. Ocean. Mountains. Fields. Rivers. Lakes. Cities. It doesn’t matter what you’re looking at, as long as you can feel a sense of distance, of perspective, and your eyes can look beyond your immediate environment. This solves problems and makes greatness.
18. Swear more
Anything that liberates you from rules and regulation will generate endorphins, which block your pain receptors. So, the next time you stub your toe, swear your little heart out. The more inappropriate the swearing, the greater the endorphin rush and the greater the pain reduction.
And remember, life is about experiences. If you have a life rich in experience, you’re doing it. Experience. Grow. Love. Resolve. Find gratitude.
With love for 2018,
About the author:
Sherrie Laryse is a teacher and mentor with a background of 10+ years studying and working in human behaviour, neuro linguistics, grief, trauma, psychosomatics and mental illness. In consulting with clients, as well as applying everything she’s learned along the way to her own life, Sherrie has positioned herself a leading teacher on how to process our experiences -our external environment- in order to control our emotions, our health and our state of being –our internal environment.
Sherrie mentors teenagers and consults with adults individually as well as teaching group workshops. She has shared her wisdom via online programs which are designed to help people resolve guilt, blame, self-judgement and her signature program, Eudaimonia, designed to help people draw out the truth of their purpose in this life and define their direction.
For Sherrie, life is a fluid gift that reshapes itself as we change our perceptions. It is this philosophy that gives rise to Sherrie’s grounded wisdom and ultimate inspiration to others. www.sherrie.com.au
by Mohammed Issa
Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.
— Benjamin Franklin
I am a born-again writer, and it’s been nearly three years since I started to write. Writing was a passion that had lain dormant; it was hidden deep in the crevasses of my heart, waiting to explode like a wild volcanic eruption.
This love affair with writing has taken me from depressing lows that I can’t wish on anyone to ecstatic new heights. It’s a love story that can rival that of Henry Miller and Anaïs Nin.
My journey started with writing my “Morning Pages” as heralded by Julia Cameron in The Artist’s Way. I would decipher my dreams and go on to analyze my previous day’s actions and take a deeper look into the fears that were holding me back. It also allowed me to celebrate my wins and constantly reminded me of why I loved myself.
Writing has transformed me and released me from the shackles that have held me back since childhood. It has led to many of my spiritual trysts where I meet my true self and feel the power of grace within me. It has penetrated deep into my soul, always asking and forever searching for the best way for me to be authentic.
I am still in my toddler years as a writer, but already writing has taught me many lessons that I can apply in my life. It has stripped me of my arrogant egoic ways and taken me out the closed-box mentality that was me for so many years.
These are the lessons that I’ve learned from writing:
1. Pain is part of life and nothing to fear.
When I write, I feel like an armless, legless man with a crayon in his mouth.
Writing is often painful, gut-wrenching, energy sapping and can ruin self-esteem. I hate it when I don’t write as the thought of not doing so hangs over me like a shadow, judging me, labelling me as a loser. I hate it when my mind compares the normalcy of day to day things like doing errands, earning a living, and socializing with the power and allure of doing something I love.
There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.
– Ernest Hemingway
Writing is simple but not easy. I hate it when it’s so hard that words get stuck in my throat, chest and heart and their flow from mind to fingers typing away become restricted.
However, the rewards and personal growth I do get from writing makes up for all the pain. It has shown me that pain is often the doorway to awareness and change in our lives. It’s something that’s more powerful than happiness.
How can we grow without pain? What kind of life is living without heartache, tears and blood?
2. Vulnerability is power
If you do not tell the truth about yourself you cannot tell it about other people.
Writing has allowed me to understand why being vulnerable makes me a better man. I am eager to share my thoughts, travails, and success. I want to be heard, and show my true self to the world.
I’ve let down the heavy armour I’ve worn since my adolescence and unveiled my emotional fragility. I now recognise that vulnerability is not weakness but rather, a great power that makes us more connected to others and more engaged in life. I want to feel my way into life, rather than sit behind a mask watching life pass me by.
“And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.” John Steinbeck, East of Eden
The thought that there is no perfection in life has liberated me as I now appreciate that life is about being present and being ourselves.
Vulnerability allows us to dig deep into ourselves leading us to our core where all uncertainty, excitement, and meaningful experiences exist. We have a better chance of unravelling the gems that hide beneath the many layers of our ego.
3) Self-Discipline and Grit protects our passion.
At its best, the sensation of writing is that of any unmerited grace. It is handed to you, but only if you look for it. You search, you break your heart, your back, your brain, and then — and only then — it is handed to you.
We need a strong will and discipline in life to be able to achieve our goals. People assume that just because someone enjoys whatever they are doing means fewer hours of hard work. On the contrary, the people who enjoy what they do and are good at it, whether that’s writing, singing or starting a new business have the steely determination to put in the hard hours.
They realize that the sense of joy will follow when they remain disciplined and committed to that practice. And that the muse will only appear when we prove our diligence and focus deeply on the practice at hand.
The discipline instilled within allows us to turn failures into stepping stones and rejection becomes a detour to bigger and better opportunities.
I’ve had to sacrifice certain things in my life, like social activities but I’ve optimized my life so that I can focus more on my writing. Now, things that don’t mean much to me are slowly losing their value and fading away from my life.
4) Joy is a state of being
It’s the most satisfying occupation man has discovered yet because you never can quite do it as well as you want to, so there’s always something to wake up tomorrow morning to do.
Writing has led me to several experiences that I call spiritual ones. I find myself in “flow” where time just passes and I can feel my heart is singing. The joy I get from completing my job is something I can hardly put into words.
This kind of joy is not like fleeting moments of happiness but something more, an overlying feeling that encapsulates my being, arming me with a deep knowing that I matter in this world, that I belong and most importantly that I am loved.
Listening to some soft classical music and writing early in the morning when I’m all alone before most people are awake remains one of the most joyful experiences that I achieve.
5) The universe is mysterious and on our side
Understanding is not a piercing of the mystery, but an acceptance of it, a living blissfully with it, in it, through and by it.
I often get a thought, an idea on what to write about. It’s usually a question that I want some answers for in my own life. I set an intention to write, for example, about Emotional Intelligence.
Suddenly my mind is flooded with new and different ideas. Also links, books and emails arrive serendipitously to aid me in writing my piece. It’s like the Universe has been invoked to come to my help.
I often start writing about a topic and find myself writing something completely different to what I had intended. I read it again and again and it’s like someone else was writing and it’s a new insight that I never thought about before I started typing away.
6) Serving Humanity makes us grow
You don’t write because you want to say something, you write because you have something to say.
– F. Scott Fitzgerald
Writing has taught me that we all have something to say, something to give and a role to play in life. We are all somehow, connected and as such the more we do give back, the more we grow as human beings.
We often look at the famous writers, billionaires, and social entrepreneurs and think that they are the ones whose duty is to give. We shun our responsibility to give back and more importantly lose the opportunity to grow as human beings.
Writing an article that inspires one person to pursue change and become a better person is as necessary as Bill Gates pledging billions to help eradicate Malaria in Africa within a generation.
The lessons I’ve learned in writing apply to whatever we choose to do in life, whether that’s setting up a business, singing or working at a job we love.
Life is all about finding the platform where we become our authentic selves, which allows us to explore our potential, get us out of our comfort zones so that we can grow in serving humanity.
About the author:
Mo is an entrepreneur, born again writer. He finally gets that he’s a spiritual being having an earthly human experience.
Mo loves Hemingway, Hesse, and Kahlil Gibran, meditates regularly and runs when he can sense the rain coming down.
Mo has powerful conversations with anyone and everyone reminding them the story The Death of Ivan Ilych by Tolstoy where on his deathbed he says: ”what if i lived all my life wrong?” He recently spoke at TedxAccra about Awakening to his Aliveness.
Mo writes everyday when the clock strikes at six in the morning and is regularly published by both Rebelle Society and Elephant Journal. He also blogs regularly at mo-issa.com
When Joni Mitchell sang “Chelsea Morning,” she described the sun coming in through the window, but she did not say if there were horizontal striped curtains.