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We all have to age but our attitude can make a huge difference in how we age! We can either resign ourselves to the negative aspects of aging, or we can embrace it with the understanding that while age is inevitable, we can change our attitude and make lifestyle adjustments to live a longer and happier life. In their new book, Paths to Healthy Aging, this husband and wife team, Doctors Mehrdad (Mike) Ayati and Arezou (Hope) Azarani, dispel many age-related myths and provide readers the tools necessary to create a healthy, joyful and energetic lifestyle!
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When it comes to healthy aging, Dr. Ayati believes that while there is a lot of information out there, most of it is very confusing for patients, their caregivers and the general public. “Those recommendations for healthy and happy living are hard and often impossible to follow,” says Ayati. While Paths to Healthy Aging is backed by solid clinical practice evidence and revolutionary medical research, it is written in a straightforward, easy-to-understand style.
Condensed into five chapters and written in a workbook format, the book covers everything from nutrition and mental/physical health, to medication. Question and action plans encourage readers to participate in discussions on these points as well as many others, such as, stimulating our mental status and staying physically fit as we age, learning the dangers of overmedication and Drug Cascade Syndrome, and how to find the right physician we can trust and respect. The book clarifies many misconceptions on aging and simplifies the journey for seniors and their families/caregivers.
Paths to Healthy Aging is more than collaboration between a geriatrician and a scientist trained in physiology, molecular biology and genetics. It is a labor of love that shows a genuine concern for the elderly and/or those wanting to get a jump on the aging process.
Dr. M. Ayati is an Assistant Professor of Medicine at Stanford University School of Medicine. Board certified in Family Medicine and Geriatrics, he also practices as a Hospitalist and ER physician at the VA Hospital, Palo Alto, CA. His patients appreciate how he explains complex, contradictory, unanswered, and confusing subjects on the topic of aging to them in a manner that can be understood and practiced with ease.
Dr. A. Azarani holds a Ph.D. in Physiology from McGill University (Royal Victoria & Shriners Hospital) in Canada and two Fellowships in Molecular Biology from University of Montreal and Genetics from Stanford University School of Medicine. With more than 25 years of life and health sciences experience in academic, government and private institutions, she is founder and CEO of Protogen Life Sciences.
Dr. Ayati is an experienced geriatrician who truly listens to his patients and pops the over inflated balloons of medical and dietary fads! A unique interactive feature makes you feel that you are actually talking with an interested, experienced geriatric expert.
– Dr. Martin Katz
Anyone who plans on living well now and especially as they age, should read this book!…I especially connected to the effect and necessity of having a loving relationship, and how important the interaction with community can enhance the feeling of well being for our seniors. Hopefully, younger, health conscious individuals will take advantage of reading this book not only for their aging loved ones, but for themselves as well.
– Heidi Stone
This book is a ‘must read’ for all age groups. It is an eye opener for people who think just taking medication/multi vitamins, OTC drugs is the answer to all health related issues.
– Bharat Mans
For more information, visit: www.pathstohealthyaging.com
Paths to Healthy Aging
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Embracing Your Life After 50 to Find Fulfillment, Purpose, and Joy
By Andrea Brandt, PhD, MFT
“There is no magical age at which we need to abandon our dreams and surrender our possibilities,” says renowned psychologist Dr. Andrea Brandt. So, as you think about growing older — which we all do, if we’re lucky — ask yourself:
- Am I really prepared to grow older?
- How can I make the most of what life still has to offer?
- How do I overcome the negative feelings and fears I have over getting older?
- What changes can I make in my life right now to lead a more meaningful life as I age?
In Mindful Aging: Embracing Your Life After 50 to Find Fulfillment, Purpose, and Joy [PESI Publishing, October 10, 2017], Dr. Brandt delivers the answers to these questions and challenges readers to throw out old stereotypes about aging, look at inspiring new evidence, and open ourselves to the very real possibilities that exist for us right now.
“Giving up a salaried occupation – if that’s what we choose – doesn’t mean giving up purposeful interaction with the world around us. Rather than take feelings of exhaustion and boredom to mean we need to retire, might these negative attitudes be more likely to indicate the need to reinvent ourselves, to explore new territory that brings us back to life and develops the skills we need to flourish there?”
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With thought provoking real world stories and examples, Dr. Brandt challenges men and women to rethink aging. In Mindful Aging, Dr. Brandt:
- Identifies cultural and societal connotations about aging and how – and why – we need to rethink them
- Offers specific key ways to increase your happiness as you get older
- Enlightens readers on the role of mindfulness in creating positive change
- Examines the need for creating a vision for life after 50, and how to deal with fear, loss, and resistance along the way
- Outlines the fundamentals for a healthy, happy post-middle age – from relationships and wellness to mental health, spirituality and more
- Describes how to let go of feelings and experiences that no longer serve you from your past
- And so much more!
“That we age is inevitable. How we age is largely up to us,” Dr. Brandt adds. “As the last of the Baby Boomers have now turned 50 and another 10,000 of their generation retire each day, a huge number of Americans find themselves confronted with the changes and challenges that come with older age and with the reality of finite life. I wanted to offer a beacon of renewal on steady shore for those who temporarily feel lost at sea.”
Andrea Brandt, PhD, MFT, has over 35 years of clinical experience as a renowned psychotherapist, speaker, and author. In her work, Dr. Brandt reveals positive paths to emotional health that teach you how to reinvent and empower yourself. She emphasizes the mind-body-heart connection as a key to mental, physical, and emotional wellness.
A featured media expert, Dr. Brandt has appeared on numerous television programs, radio shows, and podcasts. She is a contributor to Psychology Today and has written blog posts for The Huffington Post, Mind Body Green, Psych Central, and more. Long recognized as a pioneer in the field of treating anger issues, Dr. Brandt is the author of 8 Keys to Eliminating Passive-Aggressiveness, Mindful Anger: A Pathway to Emotional Freedom and her newest book, Mindful Aging: Embracing Your Life After 50 to Find Fulfillment, Purpose, and Joy.
By Heather Roan Robbins
The astrological patterns of 2017 call for follow-through, innovation, and compassion.
Follow through: So many changes have transformed our world over the last five years that we are in a phase of reaction, a spring-back, but do not have to let go of the progress we’ve made. Many souls who contracted for the last chapter are choosing to leave, which can make this a hard transition. Any cultural or legal change, any positive change of personal habit, need to be exercised and guarded until they become a new habit, because these changes will be challenged. We need to follow through on the efforts of the last era as we get started on the new chapter. And hug our beloveds in the process.
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Innovation: Look for technological innovation and sociological experiments that stretch and test us as serious Saturn trines, and expansive Jupiter opposes, exciting, chaotic Uranus, now through the fall. We need to pay attention to the consequences of our actions. This Saturn Uranus trine suggests the first round of changes will move the balance towards conservative saturnine restrictions in the name of security. But we can also use this trine to also build structure and organization into all our agencies of change. Jupiter opposes Uranus show the opposition to the changes expressed by the left, digging in their heels, but the real power will be not in resistance, but in refocusing the changes towards clear, healthy, Uranian-egalitarian, and specific goals.
Transformation: Things do not settle down this year, the climate and ecosystems continue to change and politics stay in flux around the world. Many people will want steer the changes to benefit their ilk, but we can counterbalance that pressure and take a truly global approach to problem-solving. Jupiter in egalitarian Libra until October encourages us to find our people and work together to build healthy romantic partnerships and social justice allies. Dynamic compassion needs to be our guiding principle.
Throughout 2017: Pluto remains in Capricorn transforming how we use electrical, political, and personal power by showing us power at its most oppressive worst- and at its empowering best. Uranus in rebellious, quick-to-fight Aries continues to challenge, sometimes explosively, this power-wielding dynamic. Neptune stays in intuitive, spiritual Pisces and keeps water health, water rights, and wild weather in the headlines. This Neptune feeds our spiritual hunger and need for numinous magic, but it also can feed the religious attachment that creates wars. We need to honor the many paths to spirit.
As this weekend begins: Friday brings a new industriousness under a new Capricorn Moon, we can become controlling if we’re feeling out of control. We may want to start a new work cycle, but need to use this industriousness to clean up flotsam from 2016 and organize for the year ahead as Mercury is retrograde through Jan 8. Watch for difficult pragmatic snafus and accidents, be thoughtful around all machinery and intersections.
As 2017 dawns we may feel overwhelmed, emotional, and concerned about the future, and that can lead to an excess of escapist behavior New Year’s Eve. But a hangover won’t make the new year look any better. Let’s keep our hearts open, our souls soft and protective, and dream together through the weekend, and as Venus joins the Moon, Mars, and Neptune in intuitive, squishy Pisces on Tuesday.
Mercury retrogrades back into outspoken Sagittarius on Wednesday and we’ll feel like stomping horses waiting for a race to start. Unexpected comments can reveal startling truths, but let’s fact check all we say and post. Watch for missteps, misunderstandings, and explosions. If people get cranky, ask what would clear the air, and help them get them pointed towards an achievable goal in the direction of their dreams.
Friday, Dec 30: Neither try to push the river, not be left out of plans, stay involved in important processes, but stay in the present moment. Frustration breeds depression, our moodiness improves if we feel like we’re getting somewhere. This evening it furthers to take a conceptual break, see a wonderful movie or somehow transport the psyche as the Sun sextiles Neptune and the Moon enters Aquarius.
Moon square Uranus 12:19 AM, Sun sextile Neptune 4:24 PM, Moon enters Aquarius 6:29 pm.
Saturday, Dec 31: Sweep the house and the soul, gather together unhappy remnants of 2016 and have a bonfire. Make plans to share this release of the old and bring in support to launch 2017 with intention as Jupiter quincunx the healing asteroid Chiron. It will be tempting to drown sorrows, but we’ll need our brains working in the new year ahead.
Mars conjuncts Neptune 11:52 PM.
Sunday, Jan 1: Let the world come to a gentle halt and savor the people nearby under this collective Aquarius Moon. Share from the heart. Keep imagination away from fear by brainstorming about possibilities and setting healing intentions for the new year.
Moon sextile Uranus 9:23 AM, Moon trine Jupiter 10:37 PM, Moon sextile Saturn 11:03 AM.
Monday, Jan 2: Our brains and hearts are still out on holiday, so let’s keep expectations low. Emotions wash through us as the Moon conjuncts Neptune in sensitive Pisces. We may be happy sitting by the fire with a good book or engaging in some other low-key occupation, but may feel swamped by emotions if we try to get practical and deal. Irritations or emotional impatience increases tonight as the Moon conjuncts Mars. Let’s dwell in compassion; support one another, but stay in the moment and don’t try to look too far ahead.
Moon conjunct Venus 12:58 AM, Moon enters Pisces 2:57 AM, Moon conjunct Neptune 8:57 PM, Moon conjunct Mars 11:35 PM
Tuesday, Jan 3: It’s a great week to write a fantasy novel as Venus joins Mars and Neptune in imaginative Pisces. So write one about the coming year and imagine the situation improving. Take back the paradigm. People are still feeling sentimental, tender, worried, and slow off the mark. Practical concerns need to be dealt with, not delayed tonight as the Moon square Saturn. Build support and connections, care for one another and the next steps get easier.
Venus enters Pisces 12:46 AM, Mercury sextile Venus 12:40 PM, Moon square Saturn 6:32 PM.
Wednesday, Jan 4: We begin to get our energy back, feel a bit more chipper and forward thinking, but may also need to speak up and get something off our chest first as Mercury appears to back into out-spoken Sagittarius and the Moon enters feisty Aries. Injudicious comments may have long term ramifications, so think before speaking, and hope our politicians do the same.
Mercury enters Sagittarius, 7:14 AM, Moon squares Mercury9:14 AM, Moon enters Aries 9:19 AM.
Thursday, Jan 5: Our heart may feel sore or our spirits disappointed as Venus semi-squares Pluto, and we may need to make changes in response. Unexpected elements require us to think fast, but watch out for a knee-jerk response against an antagonism, and choose thoughtfully where to go instead. If things are hard, hold one another’s hands in compassion.
Moon square the Sun 12:46 PM, Moon square Pluto 3:16 PM, Moon conjunct Uranus 9:14 PM, Moon opposed Jupiter 11:06 PM, Moon trine Saturn, 11:36 PM.
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By Holly E. Messick
During the first twelve years of my second marriage, my husband and I were involved in a verbally abusive relationship. Because I had experienced ongoing verbal abuse since childhood, I was unaware of what was occurring in my marriage as it was unfolding. It wasn’t until we’d been together 10 years and the abuse began spiraling out of control, that I sought the help of a counselor who made me conscious of the nature of this verbally abusive relationship. Even with my new-found knowledge and awareness, I continued to stay, in the hopes that the situation would improve. But over the following two years, it only became worse, so I finally moved out and began a year-long separation. At the end of the separation, my husband acknowledged his behaviors and agreed to change.
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While we were separated, I had continued to go to counseling–reading about verbal abuse–reflecting on what I learned about myself, and journaling. I learned to recognize the behaviors and also see how my victim mentality supported them. When we reunited, I was able to teach him how to communicate in constructive ways, and we eventually created a balanced relationship.
To define it, verbal abuse is used by one person to have control over another. There are a variety of verbally abusive behaviors, some of which are built into our culture. For example behaviors such as one-upmanship, bullying, disparaging, manipulating, criticizing, hard-selling and intimidating can be considered to be fair practices in the business world. But in a relationship, these behaviors can be very destructive. Nothing is more damaging to one’s confidence and self-esteem than being in a verbally abusive relationship.
Verbal abuse is experienced by people in all walks of life. Not limited by income, career or job, education, geography, age, or gender, it can occur in any type of relationship – including spousal/partner, parent-child, dating, at work or school.
A victim of verbal abuse may not see or recognize the abuser’s behavior as abusive. Instead he or she often develops coping mechanisms–which include denial and minimizing–in order to deal with the abuse. However, long-term verbal abuse can cause severe emotional trauma in the victim, which may result in depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder. It is also important to realize that while, verbal abuse doesn’t always lead to physical abuse, physical abuse almost always begins with verbal abuse.
Understanding the various destructive behaviors can help identify whether verbal abuse is occurring in your relationship and enable you to realize that it is time to take action. Here is a list of what to watch for:
- When the abuser doesn’t share his or her feelings, thoughts, ideas, hopes and dreams, or only shares limited, necessary information. This is known as withholding. It’s also a clear indicator that the abuser is not hearing and understanding the victim’s feelings.
- Countering is when the abuser refuses to acknowledge the victim’s viewpoint or ideas, while constantly arguing against it, thus preventing any discussion.
- Discounting denies a person’s reality or experience and diminishes that person’s worth. A discounting statement always begins with “You…”, such as “You don’t know what you’re talking about.”
- When deliberate disparaging remarks are disguised as a joke and treated as if they are funny, it is abusive.
If an abuser controls the conversation by deciding what is discussed, withholding information, switching the topic, or refusing to discuss something, he or she is diverting or blocking.
- Accusing and blaming someone of wrongdoing, breaking an agreement, or blaming the victim for the abuser’s own anger or insecurity is another abusive tactic.
- When an abuser makes judgements about a victim, then uses it to criticize that person, it is abusive.
- Trivializing is when the abuser makes what the victim says or does seem insignificant, such as when the victim recounts accomplishments, hopes or dreams. This can cause that other person to feel frustrated and confused.
- An abuser undermines a victim’s confidence by making statements that destroy that person’s enthusiasm, or his or her interest in something. Undermining can also be seen in such sabotaging behaviors as disrupting or interrupting the other person when he or she is involved in other activities.
- An abuser will often purposely forget things that happened by saying “I don’t remember that,”–or deliberately “forget” to provide information that the victim needs to know, or has a right to know, such as social events that the victim was supposed to or expected to attend.
- Ordering someone to do something instead of asking them to do it denies that person’s equality and treats them like a servant.
- When someone resorts to name calling, making up labels of any kind, or uttering cutting remarks under one’s breath; that is abusive.
- Using denial is when the abuser tells the victim something which denies reality, such as saying, “I never said that”– when in fact they did.
- Threats can be subtle or overt, and involve saying things which manipulate a victim by causing them to be afraid or controlled.
- Abusive anger can be exhibited through yelling and throwing things, withdrawing, or refusing to tell someone why they are angry.
- An abuser may use control by treating their victim like a child or as an extension of themself.
- Abuse is seen in the controlling of finances and access to money, and in the limitation of how a victim spends money.
- Abusers are unable to show compassion and empathy towards their victims.
- Withholding permission to make decisions or to leave the premises is a form of abuse.
- It is abusive when a person repeatedly crosses another person’s boundaries or ignores his or her requests. Abusers may also tear down and attempt to prevent their victim from having boundaries, but will create boundaries for themselves.
Recognizing any signs of verbal abuse in a relationship requires a person to be completely honest with oneself to reclaim personal power, stop the abuse and heal the emotional trauma. If you have been denying or hiding the abuse, this may be a difficult step to take. But the stakes are high! Illness, emotional trauma, depression or anxiety can result from failing to face these issues. There are many paths to healing, but one is to seek professional counseling-a key step to understand your pain and fears, and rebuilding self-esteem, so you can have an emotionally healthy life.
Holly E. Messick’s Karmic Dance: A Spiritual Journey Through Verbal Abuse is the fascinating memoir of the author’s karmic relationship with Terry, her high school sweetheart and the man who would become her second husband 20 years later. Happy to be back together again, they did not know that a higher plan was at work as they proceeded to play out their roles of abuser and victim. When she finally chose to leave the marriage, Holly ended their negative karma. Transcending their karmic relationship came about when they reunited and worked together to create a balanced, loving relationship that lasted until Terry’s death in 2013. For more info, visit www.karmicdance.com